They say, some people bring sunshine to a room when they come in the room and others when they leave that room. Which one are you?
I had an unexpected answer to prayer a couple days ago. A friend of mine, whom I have known a very long time, had shared her distress regarding my political stance over this past election. She recently reached out to me after being in “time out”. You see, she was upset that I would not vote for a woman merely because she was a woman. She was aghast at my betrayal to the women of America. Our conversations had lost their charm. I could be discussing a piece old Samsonite luggage that I spotted at the antique mall and somehow, her response would turn to her hatred of the outcome of the election in a nano second . The acid would be dripping from her teeth like the monster in that Alien movie. Remember when the acid dripped through the metal floors? It seems that unkindness is dripping off people’s mouths like this kind of acid. You know when you have been touched by it, and you know when you spew it. It’s not pleasant either way. Fundamentally she is a good soul, and has a heart of gold. She is in my holistic community and does a lot for those around her. She has had my six and I hers. I was taken aback when this woman fell for the narrative. Usually that alone would be all I needed to “Run, Forrest Run”, but we had history. I did finally I block her. No drama. Just sweet relief.
I knew what I had been taught to do. I went to my “War Room”, and gave her and our friendship to God. I also began praying for her. Months later I received a simple yet heartfelt text message. It said, “I’m afraid I may have “alien”ated and hurt your feelings because of the differences in our political stances. At the end of the day, I love you more than politics. Big Love and Aloha, always, my sister.” The healing began. Sometimes we must teach people how to treat us. She got it. I believed she would find her way and she did.
The election is over but drama is still resounding through many of our relationships. I have cut my losses on some of these relationships. I have begun to pray over these relationships. There are some I know He’s handling and there are some we are handling together. The time for mending fences has begun. I am now asking myself, did I bring “sunshine to the room when I left it”? Have I alienated anyone? I am not saying that it’s my fault every time there is an awkward moment. I am saying that, as a Christian I am going to keep my finger on the pulse and be aware of where I can sow love, and the truth of my beliefs. Here is the bottom line. God is bigger than all of this drama. Giving it to Him will de-stress my life…and maybe yours. For that alone, I say Hallelujah! The more I held on to the drama, the more exhausted I became. He is allowing me the opportunity to grow and become by letting go that which does not support me. I will, with great deliberation make sure that I bring “Son”shine to a room upon entering. How else can we change one heart , one mind at a time? How else can we fix the machine?
Breathing deep and still Learning, J.D. Jackson